‘The quality of your life is built on the quality of your relationships’ – Norah Donnell.‘Not understanding the value of relationships is what makes one isolate oneself'- (J. Krishnamurti).One of the greatest minds in psychology was Abraham Maslow who came up with a pyramid of needs in 1943, while...
‘Actions taken during ones lifetime and the way those actions affect people’s memory of the person' – (Bestow). My first blogpost was on legacy and here is a man who exemplifies the word. Dr. Gomba Fortune Oyor, my Mentor; ‘Daddy'; Advisor; 'Encourager' and 'Sounding Board'. In all my years on...
‘Emotional numbing is the mental and emotional process of shutting out feelings, and may be experienced as deficits of emotional responses or reactivity’ – Mayra Mendez, Ph.D (Child & Family Practitioner).Oftentimes, we grow numb to our pains, especially when it has to do with the loss of a loved...
We all got scars. Different, but scars all the same. Loss is evidenced by these scars. Though unseen, still there all the same. Loss of a loved one; a promising relationship; an ideal marriage; a career to die for (like a friend like to say); something or someone precious....
Ayomide, you were not a daughter to just your parents but to us all and you were so beautiful I remember. Who are we to question God? He knows all. We wish you were still here with us but you are with him now, a beautiful angel. We miss...
When my sister, Titi brought her fiancé to me, I liked him instantly. Probably partly because he is handsome and gentle looking, but I believed he was a good man. So you can imagine my joy when she became pregnant for Ayomide. Ayomide was a source of joy, not...
Despair: A state of mind caused by circumstances that seems too much to cope with- (dictionary.com).About two years after my daughter’s death, I started having nightmares and hallucinations. Sometimes I would imagine that she woke me up in the morning like she used to when she was alive. I...
Life after that seemed to return to normal somehow, but I was no longer the same person I was before the loss as I was broken up inside. My husband took to taking me along with him on official trips so I wouldn’t be alone at home while he...
After Ayomide’s death that fateful day, it felt like the weight of the world came crashing down on me. I couldn’t cry, I was numb. In fact I was so numb that I asked my husband to take me to the agent that I usually import goods to Nigeria...
Sometimes in life, we experience life-altering, mind-numbing hits as a result of losses, especially of a child or a loved one. The despair from: Seeing a loved one die; Personal crisis; Inability to reconnect with loved ones left behind; Inability to understand the roles played by each of your relationships...
